Having a pity party? Read this.

The Prayer of St. Francis

Lord, make me an instrument of your peace,
Where there is hatred, let me sow love;
where there is injury, pardon;
where there is doubt, faith;
where there is despair, hope;
where there is darkness, light;
where there is sadness, joy; O Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled as to console;
to be understood as to understand;
to be loved as to love. For it is in giving that we receive;
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned;
and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.



St. Francis was born at Assisi in 1182. After a care free youth, he turned his back on inherited wealth and committed himself to God. Like many early saints, he lived a very simple life of poverty, and in so doing, gained a reputation of being the friend of animals. He established the rule of St Francis, which exists today as the Order of St. Francis, or the Franciscans. He died in 1226, aged 44.

St. Francis’ prayer is a bold one, asking for strength to give of ourselves to meet the needs of others. He recognizes that it “is in giving that we receive,” that as we give of ourselves, we receive the peace and blessing of God.

Think about the situations that you are involved in that require peace, consolation, hope, light and joy. Then, if you’re bold enough, pray the prayer!

Source: The Prayer Guide

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July 11, 2006. Inspiration. 12 comments.

Executing the deal

I think Alina is right about how to resolve my housing dilemma. I need to go ahead and use this opportunity for my little family to temporarily move in with a guy and his kids. We’ll call this man G. Alina says, in part:

I think you should take it if all in all it is the best option, but do keep it short! Get more money and move out….

(If you don’t know the story behind this move, click here.)

My hotel room is paid up through Tuesday morning. But we’re packing up most of our stuff today and moving it to G’s house. We’ll return to the hotel later today. We’ll stay here until we have to check out. At G’s home, the kids and I will share a bedroom.

G and I talked by phone yesterday. G started off the conversation saying that he needed someone to take care of the kids. I knew that was coming, so I was prepared. I told him that I would handle any childcare duties and that my daughter would devote her time to the baby. G got silent for a minute, but he didn’t say anything.

I knew if I didn’t make my point clear before we moved in, G would be expecting my daughter to cook and clean for his four little boys. I’m certain my daughter will do some things around the house, but I want her to do them when she has the time and the energy, not as a maid. When she was dating G’s son, she used to do a lot of cooking, cleaning and caring for the kids because the house was always a mess. So I think she’s already done more than her fair share of work. We’ll move in for a month or so, save some money, and leave.

Wish us luck. Don’t be surprised if this post becomes one of a continuing saga!

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July 9, 2006. Friends/Family, Life, Personal. 2 comments.

Tell me I’m not making a deal with the devil


The job interview wasn’t the only eventful thing to happen within the last 24 hours. I got a proposal – of sorts – to temporarily resolve my housing issue. I’m going to accept the offer, but I feel as if I’m making a pact with the devil. Let me explain.

In a previous post, I mentioned that my teenage daughter recently gave birth to a son. Today the baby’s paternal grandfather offered to let my daughter, the baby, and me live in an extra bedroom at his house.

I’m not one who enjoys saying unkind things about other people. But this man, who is currently single, lives with five sons by different mothers. With the exception of his oldest son (the baby’s daddy), the rest of the boys range in age from three to ten.

In the two years I’ve known “Grandpa,” I’ve lost count of how many girlfriends he’s had. He’s been married three or four times (depending on which family member you ask). He’s a notorious flirt, even with me! And it’s no secret that he’s looking for a woman to take care of all his kids.

My life resembles a soap opera enough without taking on this new scenario. But the reality is that my little family and I really need a place to stay until I have more money coming in. My family members won’t help, and this is the only viable option I have right now. At least “Grandpa” has a steady income as a career government employee.

I’m trying to sort this all out. It wouldn’t surprise me if my daughter finds the living arrangement revolting. I will speak to her about it a little later today. If my daughter is dead set against the arrangement, then I’ll try to make other living arrangements for her.

As life would have it, my daughter decided last weekend to end communication with her baby’s father. She is hurt because he doesn’t support her or the baby.

The young man, by the way, is not living with his dad right now. So my daughter may reluctantly agree to live with “Grandpa” and his five boys. This arrangement would last about a month, giving me some time to save some money.

Are you keeping up with all of this?? Sometimes I wonder if I’m keeping it all straight! I could use a shrink about now. (sigh)

Perhaps you now understand why I’m concerned about “making a deal with the devil.”

I don’t mean to sound ungrateful. Things could be a lot worse. Stay tuned!

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July 7, 2006. Family, Life, Personal Drama. 5 comments.

In search of a rewarding career

Today I had a job interview. The position I applied for isn’t full-time. However, it is in promotions, something I think I’d enjoy. I’d get to work with people in a fast-paced environment. If hired, I’d be on call. But it’s a job, and I have to start somewhere.

My interview was at a casino. I live in a major city, but this was the first time I had ever set foot into a casino. Once inside, I gazed in amazement at the flashing lights and the crowds, but only for a few moments. I stayed focused and headed for human resources.

Once there, I completed the second half of an online application. (I completed the first part of the application, my work and education profile, at home.) In the HR office, I answered about 25 questions designed to determine if I have good customer service skills.

I train others in customer service, so I think I did all right on the questionnaire. But I admit to lying on one question. The question: Has anyone ever told you that you talked too much? I answered NO. 🙂

Later, I participated in a group interview with others.

I learned a lot today. When people are gambling away their fortunes in a casino, it’s important to have employees who smile all the time, treat guests like they’re VIPs, and maintain a high-energy environment. Projecting fun is first and foremost in every casino.

Legalized gambling is serious business. If hired, I’d have to get a gaming license. That involves completing a 32-page application and paying a fee of $125. The employer takes the sting out of the fee by allowing employees to pay the fee through payroll deduction. Sweet.

Wish me luck!

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July 7, 2006. Life, Work. 5 comments.

Never give up

“Once our minds are ‘tattooed’ with negative thinking, our chances for long-term success diminish.”
– John C. Maxwell

My life has been quite eventful this past year. Two days after being appointed to a leadership team to plan a $2 million fund-raising campaign, I lost my job. A few days later, I found out my teenage daughter was pregnant. I didn’t even know she was having sex!

I lost my home. Things went down from there. I was reminded of a quote that sat on my computer desk years ago:

It goes on and on for days. Then suddenly it gets worse.

No kidding! My former employer handled a company reorganization badly. But, in all honesty, most companies don’t handle reorganizations well.

I shouldn’t have been surprised how things played out. When I was recruited and hired for the job a couple of years earlier, I was surprised at the lack of infrastructure in place.

There was no place for me to work, so I worked from home. I had no equipment, so I had to use my own computer, phone, etc. My job is heavy on computer and phone contact.

Can you say “dysfunctional”?

Not having a place to work was actually the least of my problems. This was a start-up operation that had no phones, budget, or equipment. Six months later, my boss was still working on a budget.

That fateful day

On the day that I lost my job, I was called in early by the board president to work with him on the final part of the reorganization plan. When I arrived at the office, I learned, instead, that I no longer had a job because of that reorganization! Those are the breaks, I guess.

A week later, I found out that my daughter was pregnant. She’s still a kid. I never saw it coming. I didn’t even know she was having sex!

I can always count on family

Over the months, I endured family insults that I was a bad mother. Relatives not only slung mud at my daughter, they slung mud at me. That, in and of itself, was hurtful. The fact that I was unemployed and struggling to keep everything together made life even more challenging. I had moments of total exhaustion – physically and mentally.

Nevertheless, I never gave up. I made sure my daughter got good medical treatment. She stayed in school and continued to excel. We had some very hard times, but we met the challenge head on.

I lost my home shortly after the baby was born. But nothing could take away my joy at the birth of my grandson, who is a gorgeous and happy baby. He looks like his mom and has her charm. Like his mom, he lights up a room with his presence. I am so proud of the kids.

The good news is . . .

My daughter is back in school. Her grades are wonderful. She’ll be in honors classes in the fall.

She has her whole life ahead of her. I want her to remain focused on her goals. Everyone makes mistakes. The mark of maturity is when you can rise above them and keep going.

Our little family is still moving from place to place because I’m still looking for a full-time job. We’ve gotten very little help from family. But that was no surprise. Our faith keeps us going. We also get support from a small cadre of wonderful friends.

Never underestimate the power of God and the kindness of people – some of whom you’ve never met.

My daughter and I will be successful because we refuse to drown in negative thinking. Sure, we get discouraged at times. But we refuse to be destroyed.

The great thing about life is that with each day, you get the opportunity to begin again.

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July 5, 2006. Life. 3 comments.


You have just entered the world of Naomi. Welcome! Hopefully, you will enjoy this space.

I’m a chick who said she’d never write a journal to rant and rave. I didn’t think journaling was my style. Wrong!

After blogging for a year in some other spaces, where my writing is purely professional, I found that I did need to pen some personal thoughts.

I’m not sure where I’m headed, but I do know that I’m off on a new adventure. Come with me and enjoy the ride.

July 5, 2006. Uncategorized. Leave a comment.